Smoke without fire?
ED and I have been hitting it off pretty well these days. We see each other 2-3 times a week and exchange calls/emails every day. Yesterday we went out to dinner at a cozy little Mexican restraunt. The dinner went ok I guess and we got talking about our “secret” hang out spots. I thought I should show it to her instead of talking about it. So started an impromptu 3 hour drive across the state. After driving for well over 150 miles, and just a few miles from the “spot” there was a road closure sign waiting for us. To say the least it sucked. So we just pulled onto the side of the road, and waded across the woods to strech our legs. Have to admit, making out under the open sky, in pitch black, out in the woods on top of a mountain, ROCKS! Anyways, we got home by 4.30 AM.
Now, all that is well and good, but here is my problem: I just dont feel the spark. She is really cute, smart, and funny. We get along really well. We can relate to each other’s lives to some extent. Yet, I am not attracted to her. I dont know why. I have been forcing myself to like her, but I dont think its the right thing to do. Should I break up before anyone gets hurt? or should I wait and see if anything happens?
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By whoami929, July 16, 2005 @ 10:55 pm
I don’t think you should break up with her. What if you just stay friends? Does she seem to really like you or do you think maybe she doesn’t feel the spark either? Have you slept together yet? Maybe the spark is there it’s just not there yet. It’s a tough situation because on one hand it’s great to find someone you have so much in common with and it could turn out to be the woman of your dreams if you’d give it a chance. On the other hand…if you give it a chance and you end up hurting her well…that’ll suck and you’ll look like a bastard. I’m sure my words have provided you with valuable insight that will carry you through this difficult situation. (please note sarcasm) I don’t think you should dump her, start phasing the girlfriend/boyfriend part of the relationship out and the friendship in and see what happens. Again, usless advice. Sorry. Can’t wait to read more and see what happens! Sorry that was a little selfish.
By RageyOne, July 17, 2005 @ 12:16 pm
How does she feel about what you have going on? Have you all put those parameters on what you have or is it still at “friendship” stage?
I think you should address these issues now before any hurt can take place. It is good that you have come to realization and are willing to confront them.
By zelda, July 17, 2005 @ 3:18 pm
if you know that you’re ‘dating’ and/or that she likes you as more than a friend, then of course break it off. she deserves to be with someone who’s attracted to her and crazy about her. you can only make it as friends if she’s the type of girl who has lots of male friends, and you’re used to having female friends. otherwise, it can be too confusing to the person who’s never had an opposite sex friend before (where you drink together, hang out, take about each other’s love interests and relationships) and plenty of people have not had this before! just my opinion.
By Pseudosanity, July 19, 2005 @ 5:46 pm
Thanks guys. I thought about it, and deceided that even though we are currently in the “dating” mode, sometimes things just take time. I really like her, so I am going to give this more ime.